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Friday, November 21, 2008

Wedding planning

So now that Jeff and I have officially started planning our wedding, I’ve decided to give it it’s own category (thanks Mike for adding it).

I have a binder organized with check lists, vendors, dates, budget sheets, etc. My mom was quite impressed with my system. She then mentioned I ought ot organize my personal budget that way but I digress.

My goal is to keep things tight and not spend money on silly things. I’m realistic about it all. I have a limited budget and really, I think it’s about getting the ones we love together to celebrate our union, not about facny ice sculptures and $10,000 wedding dresses. I want it to be meaningful.

With that said, we’ve talked to our Reverend, interviewed some banquet halls and I’m ready to set a date. I have a date in September 2009 in mind, but I have to make sure it matches up with both the church and the hall. So, that may be a challenge. If we can’t get the September date, or any, we’ll move it to November. October will be completely avoided. (His first marriage was in October and for once I’m going to be petty and demand to have my own month. I want it to be special.)

Tomorrow my mom and my friend Heather and I are going to look for wedding dresses. I have an appointment at just one bridal salon. I’m sure I was supposed to have picked out a good bra or foundation wear in preparation for trying dresses on, but I haven’t. I’m winging it. I’m only going to look, but I am going with an open mind. The salon I have an appointment with has samples in plus sizes so I’ll be able to see what the styles look like on me. A lot of salons just carry size eight in samples and I’m not sure I could get a size eight over my right thigh. I’d be worse than bathing suit shopping to put myself through that.

So, like I said, I’m going with an open mind. I do have a designer in mind (yup, it’s in my binder) and I know a place an hour away in Massachusetts carries it, but I’d like to see what this place offers. I do know I want sleeves on my dress (chubby arms need not be exposed except on the beach) and I don’t want it low cut. I’d like a modest dress. I read an article in the Times that said it’s a new trend. Who knew I was so with the times, for once.

So wish me luck as I start this journey of wedding planning!